The vulnerability of tears

I cried with a client recently.

It’s only happened a few times, but this time was different: I wasn’t ashamed of shedding tears with a stranger. I didn’t feel the need to stay strong by wearing invisible armour and pretend that sad stories don’t affect me.

Mostly, I didn’t numb.

Crying with someone means I can see that you’re in pain. It means, I hear you, I understand. It means, I’m feeling emotion, too. And it means, I’m allowing myself to be seen. 

Crying with someone is not weakness. It is a sign of vulnerability, of being authentic and imperfect and brave.

Tears connect us.

It’s okay to cry.