Quitting

Gets a bad rap.

When we’re young no one gets too upset when we quit annoying our siblings or wetting the bed. And we don’t feel too badly for quitting minor league baseball and ballet lessons.

It’s when we grow up that we learn to believe that quitting is a bad thing.

The truth – which no one talks about – is that quitting is the key to happiness, to success, to freedom and to a lot of other wonderful things.

The hard part is figuring out which activities are helping us and which ones are wasting our time – and eliminating them.

When you look at your phone and automatically check social media – delete the apps off your phone. If you find yourself measuring your worthiness against other people’s external lives, unfollow people – or better yet, quit social media altogether.

When you’re late for work every day because you have a lousy job and you know it’s not going to get better anytime soon, find something else to do and quit.

When spending time with your friends makes you feel like you need to act a certain way to fit in, find people who accept you for who you are and quit trying to please people who don’t.

A few questions to ask yourself:

  1. Is doing this helping me get to where I want to go?
  2. Who benefits if I continue doing this?
  3. Will things get better if I put in more time and effort? 

If what you’re doing isn’t helping you get to where you want to go, if you’re not benefiting and putting in more time and effort isn’t going to make a difference – perhaps it’s time to quit.

The more resistance you feel about quitting something, especially something that’s getting in the way of who you want to be, it’s usually a sign that it’s something important for you to quit.

When was the last time you quit something?